Our world is changing.
(DUH!... Of course it does.)
Remember the famous (or not yet so much so..), outlandish quote?
"Just try to accept we are in paradise when we are seeing something new.
Our God is change.
Our Religion is understanding.
Searching for truth is our greatest social challenge and purpose.
When you build up your age, this will become as clear to you as why you must breathe air."
Wow.
Yes, God is Change, it is everywhere and in everything. Guaranteed.
And our own world on this planet is changing in an avalanche-like manner right now, but let's keep it simple here as this might be a gigantic digression.
Many of us fear change.
An observation to share:
Some types of people see change with differing attitudes, right out of the box.
Most people, seen from the temperament aspect (around 70 %, I hear) are born as traditionalists by temperament, or in Myers-Briggs terms, the SJ (Sensing-Judging) temperament.
Traditionalists are people who are not very fond of change, as this means that the bubble of normalcy has erupted and the world outside is unknown and could be threatful.
Some say that “Asperger” folks in the "autistic" spectrum, for lack of a better term (as these labels reduce many people into “case history” and less-than the marvel of Creation), are even more suspicious of change. Asperger phenomenon entails a couple of marvelous characteristics indeed, but these individuals don’t like choosing and they don’t like changes to the routines, which I speculate that it is for saving a large overhead of calculations, like:
“How do I fit into this new frame of reference?”, “What else do I have to think of?”, “What do I have to do?”, "What else might change?", etc.
Fear of change seems like more than a temperamental (or Asperger) thing, since we humans have an innate wish to stay in our comfort zone, and change is a direct challenge for this comfort.
Change might involve the unknown, which is inherently uncomfortable to accept at first, until getting used to the new circumstances.
But consider if we even welcome change?
Think of change as a child, stepping into your world, with all the discomfort of disturbing you from your ever-loving self, the spoiled ego and indulgence in the familiar.
More often than not, change and changing might be exactly what stands between the Now and its state-of-affairs and a better future - prosperity, success, the light in the end of the tunnel, if you will.
Just like children, every change is different.
Changes might be like a popcorn-child, stimming with energy, that you might want to bitch-slap and let cool down or take one bite at a time, like a hurricane in life.
Other changes, again like children, are mild, quiet and slow-paced.
And everything in between... But still a newborn, delivered by circumstances and other changes we faced and grudgingly accepted previously and acclimated to.
Most people understand eventually and are forced to accept changes, unwillingly even.
I wish to defer.
I would argue that, unless we change habitually, we regress.
This adhering to the comfort zone, the laziness of the comfort and the convenience, accelerates aging of us human beings, while the opposite trains us to become fluid and forces our brain into healthy plasticity, meaning: we have to adjust, develop new neural pathways and new brain cells as a reward. The capacity for adjustment gets better every time we step out of comfort.
Perhaps, if we dare to stay vulnerable and welcoming, an open heart, we might be able to adjust to an ever changing world even better and accepting changes, like the children of creation they are, embrace them rather than reject them - perhaps it will relieve some stress.
As opposed to the abrasive, unwelcoming approach that many people are prone to.
Personally I am sometimes suspicious to new stuff coming my way.
But suspiciousness is healthy, to a point. Then it is a big, important task to let go and have faith, first of all in ourselves, trust is a muscle that needs to be built, and traumas make it very difficult, if not impossible, to accept the outer world, but nonetheless it is the pathway to development.
If change is like god - everywhere and in everything - we might as well look forward to things changing, better prepare for it, have a constructive attitude.
In control theory terms: develop a feed-forward loop, and expect changes to come.
Why don’t we embrace change, like hugging a child?
Can we consider accepting a change, thrown upon us like a derelict of society in the forest right across the backyard, or even knocking at the door?
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